We have not been married that long (only about one year and four months)... and I still want there to be a bit of mystery that surrounds me! I am not a raving beauty, but I want my husband to believe that I am well-groomed naturally. I do not want to be a Discovery Health show that my husband has to watch every night from our bed. Talking about killing the mood!
One of my favorite books on femininity is Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin. Though there are questionable things Andelin believes in, reading the book open my eyes to the different ways that a woman can improve herself and thus, her marriage. In her chapter on the Feminine Manner, Mrs. Andelin lists the following:
Don'ts for the Feminine Manner
- Don't use your hands in a stiff, brusque, efficient, firm, or strong manner
- Don't walk with a heavy gait or long strides.
- Avoid the following qualities in the voice: loudness, firmness, efficiency, boldness, dullness, mumbling, monotonous, singsong.
- Don't laugh loudly or in a vulgar manner
- Don't use facial expressions that suggest anger, coldness, bitterness, resentment, disgust, or stubbornness.
- Don't indulge in conversation that is harsh, bitter, critical, impatient, crude, vulgar, or unrefined.
- Don't pick your nose, scratch yourself, or blow your nose in public (wiping your nose is okay).
- Don't stroke your husband's back in public, caress his hair, or fondle him.
- Don't slap anyone on the back.
- Don't talk loud, whistle, or yell.
- Don't roar at jokes.
- Don't gulp food or eat noisily.
- Don't drink by throwing your head back.
- Don't sit with legs apart or one leg across the other.
Whew! With rules like that, I'm quite sure that Helen Andelin would be horrified to hear that I've been leaving the bathroom door open. After re-reading the chapter on Feminine Manner, I have decided to take care to rekindle the wonderful newlywed feeling and begin to primp in private once more!